On this short and sweet episode Carolina dives into the topic of how to communicate better. Carolina stresses the importance of communicate and how it is key to all of our relationships.
understanding what you need from others
Carolina realized that she was not always the best communicator, and for so long thought that everyone around her were mind readers or that the things she wanted were obvious but actually she wasn’t super clear about what she needed and wanted. She recognized that someone might not understand you in that way or understand your needs, so we need to voice and express to others and those closest to us what is on our mind.
You ultimately need to be aware of yourself and know yourself on a better level. How are you going to be able to express to others, if you don’t know deep inside what you truly need in that moment. By being intentional and having self-awareness we can feel more whole in our relationships.
Crystal Clear communication
Carolina touches on the “CCC” concept, “crystal clear communication, which she read about in a book by Melissa Ambrosini. After reading this book she became more mindful about how she had to change the way she communicated with people. You speaks about how you really have to be very clear and specific with the things you need.
how to be an active listener
Communication is a two-way street. If you are communicating with someone else, you also have to be an active listener. You have to learn to be a better listener, you can’t expect others to listen and hear you, if you don’t take the time and energy to do the same. Carolina says how there are different ways to listen to someone. Nodding your head, ask clarifying questions, try not to interrupt, and try to not bring the subject back to you. You are not there to change the topic, give advice or cause the person stress, you are there just as a listener. You are there to validate what the other person is saying and help them to feel heard. We all need to do the work to be a better listener and be more mindful in conversations with others.
Our relationships are such tools for growth. Carolina provides us with some tips on how to communicate better in relationships. She believes journaling and writing down our thoughts helps us to be clearer about our ideas and thoughts when we head into a conversation with someone. She also loves meditation for slowing down and really thinking about what she needs. Little self-care practices are so important in slowing our mind down and helping us in our day-to-day conversations.
chakra balancing
Another practice Carolina loves is chakra balancing! Chakras are our energy system in our body. Different chakras tie to different things in our body. Our throat and heart chakras are really connected to communication. If either of these chakras are blocked or out of balance, then they can affect the way we open up to others or express ourselves. The more that we do inner self growth work, the better we will show up for ourselves and others! If you want to learn more about Chakras there is an episode on this!
ask for what you need
Finally, Carolina touches on releasing the victim mindset. If you don’t feel heard sometimes, we need to voice how that made us feel. If someone isn’t giving you the attention you need in a conversation, then we can approach them and express how it makes us feel, but we don’t need to be on guard and lash out emotionally. It’s easier to ask for what we need and communicate how we are feeling. It’s easy to get angry and upset when someone isn’t responding to us the way that we need, but if we communicate and set loving boundaries then we can strengthen our relationships.
Communicating our feelings can feel daunting at times, but if we implement daily self-care practices, calmly express our emotions to our loved ones, and show up for ourselves, then we can grow in our relationships and have inner growth as well! Xo
Michaela
If you want to learn more, download the episode on Spotify or Apple Podcast + you can now watch Carolina on YouTube!!
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