When we’re navigating life transitions, a lot of emotions can come to the forefront of our experience — and on this week’s podcast episode, I dive into all of this as I share a bit about my upcoming move from Manhattan to Brooklyn.
The Awkward In-Between Before a Big Change
Many of us feel anxious during transitions because of all the uncertainty that comes along with it — there’s this “awkward in-between”, where you know your life is about to be quite different, but you’re not there yet.
You might feel out of control, or stressed, or maybe you'll try to feel more in control by micromanaging other things. It’s an interesting time, that’s for sure.
But something else that inevitably happens when you’re embarking on a life change or a transition, is a “grieving”, or mourning of what you’re leaving behind.
The thing is: to enter a new chapter, you also have to close a door on a past one. And that requites a lot of letting go.
You’ll become hyper aware of the fact that once you’re in this new phase of your life, a lot will be new and different.
You might begin to feel more aware of everything that you’re no longer going to be able to experience in the same way you have up until now.
You might even realize that you’ve been so focused on what was next, that you didn’t even appreciate all the small beautiful things that were a part of your present reality.
Let all of this remind you that life is happening in the now, so you might as well choose to appreciate things as they happen and see beauty in the mess, rather than always trying to control exactly how things are ‘supposed’ to play out.
Whether you’re moving, ending a relationship, having a friendship breakup, switching teams or jobs, leaving college or high school… you may feel all of this and more.
The Importance of Letting Go
It can feel hard to let go. The bittersweet feeling of knowing that you’re never going to experience something again is real.
So during these times of change, one of the most important things you can to do for yourself is allow yourself to grieve, to feel sad for what you’re leaving behind, to mourn the present reality that you can no longer carry on with.
Honor everything you’ve experienced, and all that it taught you.
Every moment up until now has prepared you for this next chapter.
Even if what you’re leaving behind was one of the hardest moments of your life, you might still hyper focus on what you’re going to miss, and that’s because you are HUMAN, and sometimes, that’s what our minds do. They focus more on what we’re losing than what we’re gaining.
it's okay to feel many things at once
Life is paradoxical — it’s okay to feel both excited and anxious, sad and happy, bittersweet and giddy. Transitions are filled with confusion, and letting go is a process.
But at the end of the day, in order to fully embrace change and step into it with power, you must let yourself release the past and ground yourself in the now.
Embrace the chaos, embrace the messy in-betweens, embrace not knowing exactly how things are playing out.
Trust yourself, trust the universe, trust your growth, and trust that this next chapter will bring about amazing
experiences that will enhance your life on earth.
With love,
xx Carolina
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